Sunday, August 11, 2013

The Etiquette of Humor IV


IV. HOW NOT TO CONVERSE
The subtlety of a child wearing spectacles and reading a hardbound book delivers the same “kids are smart” punchline.

 THE BRAGGART

There is a big difference between sharing our accomplishments and extolling our virtues to anyone we happen to meet. Close friends and family members allow us to brag a little because they are just as pleased as we are about positive, successful outcomes, but no one wants to have someone make a mockery of their success.



Others are not as interested in our successes. Even when we are bursting with pride, the good-humored conversationalist does not go on and on about what a wonderful job they did, or how bright their child is. Many recognize this due to past social blunders where they held someone uncomfortably captive with their good news story.


In the event you find yourself captive of a braggart, comment politely about their remarks and try to redirect the conversation. Abruptly changing the subject can leave a proud individual feeling socially awkward for having shared their good news. 




Responding to another’s good fortune with a good-humored response can both acknowledge the other person’s pride while simultaneously and smoothly opening the pathway for more general conversation that can be shared in equal terms. Sociability is all about navigating the nuances of equality. 


What a great story! Speaking of which...




5 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is so true! Our egos are tough nuts to crack lol. I'm going to try your suggestion the next time I'm in that situation...which probably will be tomorrow :-)

Anonymous said...

This is so true! Our egos are tough nuts to crack lol. I'm going to try your suggestion the next time I'm in that situation...which probably will be tomorrow :-)

Unknown said...

Great article Soph - as always : )

Soph Laugh said...

Thank you, Chris... :D

Soph Laugh said...

Egos can indeed be tricky business... good luck tomorrow ... let me know how it goes! I have a number of jokes on my Twitter feed if you want to borrow some! lol :D