Humor is infectious. It lightens burdens, inspires hope, connects us to others, increases our insight, keeps us grounded, focused, alert, and happy.
Laughter is a universal language that stimulates both sides of the brain. It allows us to get messages quicker and remember them longer. We all learn more when we are having fun. Writing this blog is a creative exploration in sharing thoughts that make us laugh, smile, or think. Welcome and have a nice day!
"Scholars from a variety of disciplines are well represented in this volumen and have traced the origins of humor and its well-established theories developed through many centuries of philosophizing and conducting field and experimental research. My task is to focus on the issues of humor as they relate to human communication needs and desires. Given our vantage point in early twenty-first century, I am delighted to have the paradigmatic excuse to summarize the knowledge in this field from a fundamentally post-modernist perspective. However, my intention in presenting my findings in this manner is primarily self-serving and a reiterative reflection of the paradoxes inherent in the topic of humor. Suffice it to say that I believe humor theories tell us more about the theoreticians' own perspective on life and their attitudes toward other humans than they do about humor itself. Humor, therefore, is simply a manifestation of a person's outlook on life; and by extension, the following are my subjective ruminations on this topic and may, therefore, tell you more about this writer than about humor."
Davis' introduction is refreshingly honest. Here's a few comics that I think convey a similar spirit.
The frontal lobe of our brain is associated with numerous behavioral characteristics and triggers, a sense of hope, piece of mind, creativity, identity... it allows us to predict the outcome of our beliefs: I find what I seek.
If we see the world as "funny" we find humor everywhere. If we see the world as "peaceful" we find peace everywhere. If we see people of the world as "nice" and "interesting" and "enjoyable to be around" we interact as such.
Believing you can laugh is less about the spontaneous sounds and movements of the face and body and more about belief. If you find the world funny, you simply produce varying degrees of physical artifacts that resemble the insight: The World is Funny. This insight leads to effortless laughter, spontaneous giggles, genuine smiles, and relaxed enthusiasm.
Only when we wish to experience seriousness, sadness, or despair do we focus on those things which inspire these feelings within us.
Basically, whatever we want, we can find. So, like me, laugh and smile easily, allow me to share with you a few images that made me laugh or otherwise smile.
Where does the feeling of "Tomboy" reside in the brain? According to researchers, gender identity may be associated with the right amygdala in the limbic system and surrounding right temporal lobe.
According to Céline Sciamma, becoming a Tomboy can occur when adolescents try to "fit in".
For myself, being a little "Tomboyish" was about having the popular Dorothy Hamill haircut and exploring other interests beyond those of my girl friends (dolls, flowers, and playing dress up)... like the thrill one gets when playing video games, the exhilaration that comes from riding as fast as you can on a bicycle or galloping horse, or hanging upside down on the Monkey bars and climbing trees to get a better look around your world.
Many of these behaviors instilled within me a deeper sense independence and desire for freedom. Not simply from social constraints, but from self-imposed ones, too. Pants, out of practicality, were preferred over dresses, respect became preferred over appreciation, and a sense of accomplishment became preferred over the gratitude one feels when, as a girl, you get to "go first".
Boys became peers and girls simply friends with whom I had little in common other than our shared gender and love of shoes that sparkle!
In school, I became an athlete (baseball team, tennis team, cross country, swim team, etc.) and began associating myself away from my childhood "Tomboy" image toward "the athlete" and team captain.
Once young adolescence gave rise to early womanhood, my athletic physique naturally drew attention, which my mother redirected toward modeling - an experience I reviled - so I re-redirected my attention toward becoming a scholar and a young entrepreneur, a preferred role I enthusiastically embraced.
While there was never any confusion in my own sense of gender identity, confusion did arise when my independence and early success left me without a peer group with which I could identify.
International travels and my embrace of new cultures left me without a strong sense of cultural identity. This led me to exploring new ways to identify with other people (joking, asking questions, sharing experiences).
My Tomboy experiences did not lead me to lesbianism - a common myth of why girls are Tomboys - or radical feminism, but rather an unbridled curiosity, which led to a non-conformist, global lifestyle.
When my children were born, this non-conformist attitude gave rise once again to that young Tomboyish thrill of adventure. The feeling I once felt when I climbed all the way to the top of the highest trees in our neighborhood just to get a better look around has stayed with me. It's the same thrill I get now when our family travels to exotic or interesting locations around the world.
If you are the parent of a Tomboy, try not to let yourself or others blind you with stereotypes. Your daughter's fierce sense of independence might instead be an indicator that you are raising a future global citizen who has the capacity to see beyond the trees in your neighborhood (this designation fits for boys, too, but for the purpose of this post, we're talking about a spirit inherent in Tomboyism).
If you are a Tomboy, you might just be the kind of person who will constantly reach out toward a world that promises new experiences, a person who, despite being a little nervous or trepidatious when exploring foreign lands, finds yourself so consumed by curiosity and a natural sense of wonder that you go for it. You might not be a Tomboy at all, but rather a budding global citizen.
When independence, acknowledgement, appreciation, and wonder all come together, what emerges is a more balanced sense of identity. This inspires others to seek their own identity rather than allowing personhood to be predefined.
Tomboys are not held back by traditional beliefs about what we "should be" because we're too busy becoming what we are... someone who's totally "okay" with herself.
Post Script
This post was written to inspire young women who think they might be "Tomboys" and parents who think they're raising "Tomboys" into a mode of non-judgment about the common stereotypes associated with being a "Tomboy". The important thing here is defining one's own sense of personhood...
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